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Talking To Someone About Dementia Symptoms
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6 Tips To Start The Conversation On Dementia With A Loved One
For most of us the idea of broaching the subject of possible warning signs of dementia with a loved one is difficult, but for adult children with their parent it can feel overwhelming according to Alzheimer’s Association “...people are worried about hurting a family relationship or… upsetting people that they care about.”
The Association also says that broaching the topic early helps everyone. "When you know what you’re dealing with upfront, then you can plan. The person [with dementia] can have a voice in what happens next."
If someone you care about is showing the early warning of dementia symptoms, it is important to have the talk with him or her as soon as possible.
Here are 6 tips for talking with someone you love about dementia:
1. It's Gonna Zig When You Want Zag
Realize it probably isn't going to go as you planned. You may have all the best, but your loved one may not be open or willing to discuss the changes you have noticed. They may get angry or defensive. Don’t try to force the conversation. Take a break, especially if the conversation gets heated, and plan to revisit with them at another time. If you are still having troubles with your loved one and they are refusing to listen or get help, then it is probably time to seek out a medical professional.
2. Go With Your Gut
Meaning if you are seeing some of the early warning signs - don't wait. Have the conversation as early as possible. It’s important to say something before more symptoms occur. The conversation and sommunication will be at It’s best when cognitive functioning is at its highest.
3. You're There To Help
Offer your support. Understand that this may be a scary situation for your loved one and the idea of going to a doctor to discuss the changes can feel overwhelming for them. Let your loved one know that you are there for whatever support that they may need and can accompany them on visits to the doctor. Stay steadfast in showing your support throughout the diagnosis in the days and months that follow.
4. Openers To Get Them Talking
Here are some different ways to the conversation started:
- Recently I started thinking about my own long-term care plans and I was wondering if you have any ideas or tips for me?
- How are you feeling? I was wondering if you’ve noticed same changes in your behavior that I’ve noticed?
- Would you want me to tell you if I noticed any concerning changes in your behavior?
5. Be Ready For Some Pushback
Realize there may be gaps in their self-awareness. Someone experiencing the signs of early dementia may not see the symptoms in themselves. Be prepared that your loved one may show signs of confusion, denial and withdrawal.
6.Who Else Should Attend
Before you begin think about who else should be with you having the conversation. Is there a certain family member or close friend who can positively influence your loved one? Consider asking that person to be with you in the capcity of emotional support for your loved one.
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